Soul Friend.

I have recently finished Soul Friend: The story of a shared spiritual journey, by Jo-Anne Berthelsen. This book was an unusual read for me as I tend to prefer fiction, but I found myself thinking about a lot of things  in my own life as I read this book. Please take a moment to read the short interview I have conducted with Jo-Anne below. I hope you will get a copy of Soul Friend, and that in reading it, you will make some discoveries about yourself, just as I did.

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Soul Friend is an honest and intimate portrayal of the author’s own journey with her wise, spiritual mentor and the warm, life-giving relationship that developed between them during their fifteen years of meeting together. This story is written in the hope that it will inspire many not only to seek out such a spiritual friendship for themselves but also to provide such a friendship for another.

Beautifully written, this honest and insightful memoir is an inspiring celebration of the ancient art of spiritual companionship. Dr Rick Lewis
Soul friendship is a very under-emphasised resource of Christian discipleship, particularly for Christian leaders. Jo-Anne has written honestly, beautifully, sensitively and powerfully. Dr Keith Farmer.
Interview with Jo-Anne: 
1.       What do you think are some of the traits of a ‘soul friend’ relationship?

Among other things, a soul friend loves and respects you, listens to you, notes what God is doing in your life, is prepared to pray for you, encourages you and shares godly wisdom with you when necessary.

 2.       What can a ‘soul friend’ type relationship teach us that other relationships cannot?

We can learn so much in all our relationships, but I think a ‘soul friend’ type of relationship teaches us so much more about God and about ourselves. It mirrors to us in a special way God’s own love, grace, wisdom and faithfulness, thus strengthening and enhancing our relationship with God. And it also helps us to face issues with honesty and integrity, to live our lives in the best way we can and to go deeper with God in the midst of it all.

 3.       A true friend will lovingly point out our faults, as well as our virtues. How does a ‘soul friend’ relationship survive honest moments such as these?

Of all friends, a soul friend cares about the deepest parts of us and wants us to experience the growth and healing we all need, so will take the risk of challenging us at times. I think one key to surviving such moments is to take time initially to build up the relationship so that there is a basis of trust between you. Another is to be loving and gracious in the way we do challenge the other person and not convey the idea that we ourselves have everything together! And a third aspect I feel is very important is to cover everything in prayer, asking God what to say and how to respond when the challenges come.

 4.       In your opinion, when can a close friendship become a destructive relationship?

Things can go wrong if a close friend wants to wield too much power over us and become too controlling, so that we feel we are losing who we are as a person and are unable to make our own decisions before God. Perhaps he or she might do this by speaking too forcefully, by not listening to us or even by withdrawing in some way. That’s why things like respect for each other and prayer are so important in a relationship.

 5.       What would you like readers to take away from reading yours and Joy’s journey together in ‘Soul Friend – The story of a shared spiritual journey’?

I would love my readers to be inspired to find a soul friend for themselves who can be there for them in their own spiritual journey and/or to be that soul friend for someone else. And I would love any readers going through similar challenges to those I write about in ‘Soul Friend’ to be encouraged and feel understood in their own journeys. But beyond that, I hope my book enables readers to catch some further glimpse of the amazing love, grace, patience and faithfulness of God for each one of us!

1648_originalJo-Anne Berthelsen lives in Sydney but grew up in Brisbane. She holds degrees in Arts and Theology and has worked as a high school teacher, editor and secretary, as well as in local church ministry. Jo-Anne loves communicating through both the written and spoken word. She is the author of five published novels – Heléna, All the Days of My LifeLaura,Jenna andHeléna’s Legacy, with a sixth, The Inheritance, due for release in 2013. Her first non-fiction work Soul Friend: The story of a shared spiritual journey was released in October 2012. Jo-Anne loves music, reading, mentoring younger women, and sharing with community groups about writing. She is married to a retired minister and has three grown-up children and three grandchildren.
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Know that YOU are LOVED this Valentines Day.

RosesAt one stage in my life, Valentines Day did not hold a scrap of significance for me. Flowers did not arrive, loving words were not spoken, and without a ‘significant other’ there was no hope for romance. The hopeless romantic in me was never satisfied, and I would breathe a sigh of relief that the day had ended.

Today I have a husband and son who shower me with attention, and it never needs to be ‘Valentines Day’ for my husband to buy me flowers, or an expensive gift to show me he loves me. I am blessed. But this morning before my husband had greeted me, or my son had woken up, I read these words:

“The LORD appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness”‘ (Jeremiah 31/3).

It made me realize that all those years I felt sad because I didn’t receive any flowers, didn’t hear any loving words, and didn’t have a ‘significant other’ – I actually DID. HE was the one who gave me the day; who bloomed every flower in the world; HE ordered the birds to sing;  He gave me words of love; He sent his most precious ONE – all because HE loved ME.

If you are sad today, because you feel like you are missing out on love, please know that you haven’t been missed, or forgotten. Not one little bit. The ONE who taught us what it is to love – loves YOU. And it is with an E-V-E-R-L-A-S-T-I-N-G Love.

UCB Direct – hear the Promo.

My ‘Resolution’ Series is currently ‘Product of the Week’ at UCB Direct. If you haven’t heard the promos on the Vision Radio Network yet, check one of them out below.

I love that this one features an interview from a reader.

You can get all three books in my series at UCB for only $39.95 Delivered.

Thank you UCB for supporting this Aussie Author.

Click here to hear the Promo:

UCB Direct. Resolution Series. Let’s Talk about Books.

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Mercy Triumphs Over Judgment.

This morning I watched a well-known female television personality admit to smoking during her third pregnancy. As the news report unfolded, I clasped my hands over my mouth. ‘What a selfish, unloving thing to do to your child,’ I thought. Then I saw the emotion she displayed as she told of her struggle to give up smoking. Now, THIS was something I could understand. I had seen my husband go through the same struggle, even after a life changing wake-up call. She was so honest about her battle that tears came to my eyes.

It occurred to me that every single person on this planet has struggled with something in life. ‘But I would never do what she did,’ you may say. Well – maybe not, but have you ever done something you know is wrong? Have you ever done something unloving that has affected someone else? I know I have. I know most of us have. I know that not one of us is perfect.

If you think back to the struggles you have faced in your life, did you find the strength to overcome them through the judgment and condemnation of others? Sure, this may have been a part of the initial wake-up call, but if you are like me, once you admitted your wrongdoing, what you really needed was kindness, understanding, and most importantly – HELP.

I believe that this celebrity will overcome this addition, because she is humble, and knows she must. I am certain that she will get the help she needs. I just hope that she also gets the compassion she (and all of us) deserve.

In this human experience, we all require forgiveness. Mercy triumphs over judgment.

In the interest of finishing this blog on a lighter note: here is a video of my dog, Noodle. He is the perfect dog; loving, obedient, faithful, and happy – except for one thing – Toilet Paper. The desire to attack the roll has been Noodle’s undoing ever since he was a puppy. It is something he knows is bad, but cannot help but do. He still struggles with this. We keep the toilet paper behind barriers.

I hope you get a giggle out of this, and realise that, although there is a big difference between the playful antics of a puppy, and the seriousness of addition, our willingness to show compassion is just the same. 

New Year – Old Resolve.

Even though I have a three book series named ‘Resolution’, I am not traditionally a New Year’s Resolution maker. I never have been. Looking back on years past I can honestly say that I have never waited for a new year to roll around in order to change something in my life. This doesn’t mean that I have never made a resolution, just that I don’t wait for a benchmark event other than the obvious need within myself to make a change.

I like to apply the ‘let your yes be yes, and your no be no’ concept all year round. So this year I will continue to try and do what I say I will do – and if I fail (either myself or others), then I apply the forgiveness method, knowing that success lies in the ability to learn by mistakes and to move on.

I hope 2013 is your year of moving on to greater things in your life, and that love and peace will be your guide. Thank you for reading my blog, and for supporting me through my 2012 journey. Love to all. See you ‘next year’. 

Rose xo

Monuments are Important. Please help me with this one.

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Kim Elizabeth Jane Venables.

Desperately seeking handyman on Norfolk Island. Must have a grinder and is able to prepare the surface of a stone, (already in place), and fix our plaque to the stone. Happy to pay any cost of the job. If you know of anyone PLEASE HELP. email: rose.dee@bigpond.com 

My little sister, Kim died on the 7th of December 1999. After seeing her lifeless, it became so clear to me that our bodies are nothing but shells. The essence, the person, the spirit, of my sister had gone; so when my father applied to have a plaque established at the place where she fell at Puppy’s Point, Norfolk Island, I can honestly say that I didn’t understand why.

For me Kim was exactly where her grave head stated – ‘safe in the arms of Jesus’. I didn’t understand why a monument, however small, was important. She was no longer at the place where she fell, so why mark that spot?

I have never found comfort in visiting grave sites. I prefer to recall the memories of loved ones who have passed in other ways. But even though I didn’t understand my father’s motivation, I still supported him in his desire to see the monument established – for no other reason than because it fulfilled something within him.

Unfortunately my father was never able to establish this monument to my sister. Each one of his requests was denied by the Norfolk Island governing body, and he also passed away last year.

Then, about six months ago on a visit to Townsville, my son, Tully and I came across the World War Two memorials on the Strand. My son was enthralled. He had me read aloud to him the details of the Battle of the Coral Sea, and he walked wall after wall of names to find his great Uncles who had served. His interest piqued again and again with each new section we discovered.

His reaction was testimony to me that memorials are important. They are put in place for the living, not the dead. They are established so we can remember; share the stories of our past; and leave legacies of knowledge for future generations. A memorial is an unspoken communication, a loving gift to the one who has passed, and a loving reminder of the life we all have.

I have submitted a renewed request to the Norfolk Island Government that our family be allowed to place a small plaque at the spot where Kim fell. I am asking you to please help me in this request by leaving a small comment of support to this post.

Monuments are important – a vital part of the history of an area, and stories that need to be told.

 

 

ACRBA – Return to Baragula. by Mary Hawkins.

 Over the years Emily Parker’s actions as a teenager have impacted not only her own life, but the lives of many different people.

Now, six years later, she returns reluctantly to her home town of Baragula only to discover the man at the heart of those actions, Matthew Davidson, is the community’s respected doctor.

While Emily’s faith is now severely weakened by all that has happened, Matthew’s life has completely turned around since he committed his life to Christ. His personal relationship with God is tested when he discovers how his behaviour when a non-believer hurt so many, especially Emily, and feels responsible for her hardness of heart towards the Lord.

Disease attacks the community while danger from another source threatens Emily and her family. Through it all, will Matthew and Emily’s faith be strong enough to forgive each other and put the past behind them?

My Thoughts: 

This is my favourite of all the Mary Hawkins novels I have read. The story instantly engaged me, and although the romance was a little predictable, it was exactly what I like. I don’t want to wonder weather a heroine and hero get together in the end, I want to know that they do and enjoy the anticipation of the story as they get there. I also loved that both characters were flawed. In some Christian novels I have read, the characters are so ‘pure’ that the story is totally unbelievable and I simply cannot relate to them. This is not the case in ‘Return to Baragula’. I found this story to be a great balance between uplifting Christian ideals and displaying the grace and forgiveness that accompanies the Christian walk. 

See: http://www.mary-hawkins.com/ for stockist information.

On a personal note: ‘Return to Baragula’ was the novel that brought Australian Christian Authors into my life. I could hardly believe that an Australian had written a Christian fiction novel. It was a wonderful discovery, and a vital step that lead to my own calling as a Fiction Writer. Thank you, Mary Hawkins. xo

       Visit Mary at: http://www.mary-hawkins.com/

‘A New Resolution’ and A New Trailer!

I was recently involved in a talk about book trailers at the Word Writer’s Getaway on the Sunshine Coast. As I was discussing the process I went through to produce my three trailers, I realized that it had been a far bigger project than I had anticipated.

Firstly there is the concept, then the script writing, finding a location, organizing equipment, models, editor … and the list goes on and on. When I look back on my efforts now, there is no doubt that it was a huge undertaking.

So, here I am launching my latest trailer. This is for my new release, and the final book in my Resolution series – A New Resolution.

These photos were taken in and around the beautiful tourist destination of Airlie Beach, North Queensland.

A very special thank you to the Coral Sea Resort for allowing me to shoot on their premises, and to Whitsunday Rent a Yacht for giving me free reign on one of their magnificent boats, (what a way to experience the islands and Great Barrier Reef!)

Also a very big thank you to Tenille Smith and Ben Chapman who portrayed my characters, Anika and Nate. You guys did a terrific job.

And not to forget my son, Tully. Who was so smitten with Tenille that holding her hand kept him happy and still for the camera – at least, long enough to get the shots I needed.

A New Resolution is available now from all good bookstores. See links on the side of this page.

Check out this incredible ways to see the Whitsundays – http://www.rentayacht.com.au/home/

Love this place – Coral Sea Resort Airlie Beach: http://www.coralsearesort.com/

A ‘Winning’ Week.

At Omega Writer’s Dinner with my Bookseller’s Choice Award.

I can’t believe that two completely different winning moments can span a period of days.

The first win (and a big surprise for me), was that ‘Back to Resolution’ won the Bookseller’s Choice award at this year’s Caleb Awards on Saturday night (13th October). 

This award blew me away! I was without words, (and that in itself is a real achievement, let me tell you). To win in this category is nothing short of the very best accolade my work could receive. You see, it was never my ‘dream’ to be an author. My dream was to do the one ‘thing’ God had placed me here to do, and not to have my life pass me by without serving Him in His work. This dream is what led me to write. I do not believe I am very ‘literary’, but I strive to portray real characters in real life dilemmas, and to produce stories that people love to read. So the idea that my stories have resonated with the public is a great joy to me. It is also encouraging as I continue with my writing. Thank you Omega Writers, all the readers who voted, as well as every bookstore that features my work. 

The other ‘winning’ moment was the draw for our accommodation voucher at Hinchinbrook Marine Cove Resort on Vision Radio Network.

I always know when God is the orchestrator of something because it goes according to His plan and not to ours. Such was this promotion, and what a wonderful joy it was! With over eighty callers to Vision’s Sing Song competition, listeners were given a chance to wobble their vocal chords and have some fun singing the songs we all love. Even Tully and I had a go at our own rendition of a children’s song. Thank you Karen, Matt, and everyone at Vision. 

On Monday we drew the winner – Ella from Esk in Queensland. Congratulations, Ella, and a very special thank you to all who entered. It was great fun. 

Me with Karen from Vision Radio drawing the winner of the Accommodation voucher at Hinchinbrook Marine Cove Resort.

http://www.vision.org.au/the-journey/song-star-draw-congratulations-ella-from-esk-youre-off-to-hinchinbrook-marine-cove

 

 

http://hinchinbrookmarinecove.com.au/ 

Our ‘Literary Army’

Matt and Karen – Vision Radio Network.

In my recent interview on the ‘Aussie Hour’ with Matt and Karen on Vision Radio Network, Matt commented that Australia was experiencing a ‘revival of the arts’. I truly believe that this is the case, especially in my circles – Christian Women’s Fiction.

We have such a dynamic team of authors writing stories that resonate, not only with our fellow Aussies, but with international audiences as well. We have editors, proofreaders, and publishers that are refining our work with a professional touch, and turning each book into a story that touches hearts and provides entertainment and learning to our growing audience.

It is a joy to be a part of this community. We lift each other up, challenge each other to do our best, encourage, and give healthy, constructive criticism delivered with the love and respect we feel for each other.

We truly are (as Matt says in this interview) a ‘literary army’, (love that), and I am itching to get down to see my peers at The Word Writer’s Getaway on the Sunshine Coast this weekend. Not only am I launching the third book in my ‘Resolution’ series – ‘A New Resolution’, I am also coming together with three other Aussie Authors to launch our conjunction book – ‘The Greenfield Legacy’. This book is a testimony to the power of working together, and I love the story we have produced.

Please seek out our Aussie Authors – we have released books you will want to read:

Here are some links to get you started:

http://amanderings.wordpress.com/

http://www.justoccurred.blogspot.com.au/

http://christianwritersdownunder.blogspot.com.au/

http://laura-oconnell.com/

 Please take a moment to listen to my interview with Matt and Karen on Vision Radio Network’s ‘The Aussie Hour’.

CLICK HERE:

Aussie Hour interview with Matt and Karen.

 http://www.vision.org.au/